✨ When Love becomes a product: Why we consume human connection
- Lia Schmitt
- 7 days ago
- 3 min read

When was the last time you truly loved? 💔
Deeply loved.
I don’t mean being in love – I mean that quiet, inner certainty:“This is it. I want no one else.” 🤍
I thought I had felt that. My heart was calm 🫀. For the first time . And I was filled with the certainty: This is it. ✨
But sometimes – while you’re arriving – the other keeps searching 🔁.
Wondering: Is there someone better out there?
Someone younger? 👩
More perfect? 🌟
Less complicated?
Someone with a “more normal” job. Not a job that has anything to do with sex.
Not a sex worker 🙅♀️.
And then you ask yourself: How can someone who says “I love you,”who wants to start a family with you 👶, who means it – still keep looking?
Maybe that’s the pain of our time: We long so deeply for love –and yet we’re afraid to truly arrive 🏡.
There are so many people in the city 🏙️ – and yet you feel alone. You stand in the supermarket, seeing faces – but no one truly sees you 👤. You hear voices, but none of them asks: “How are you – really?” 🤍
And when your heart longs for closeness, you reach for the app 📱. Tinder. A swipe. A chat.
A nice evening. A bit of skin. A bit of desire. And then: emptiness. 🌪️
Because it’s no longer about souls – it’s about surfaces ✨.Not: “How does he feel when he laughs?” But: “What does he look like naked?”
Not: “Does her way of thinking touch you? ”But: “How many filters is she using?” 📸
People used to meet on the street 🚶♀️🚶♂️.
Eyes met. Energy stirred 🌀.There was a tingle. A maybe 💭.They brought flowers 💐. Asked for permission.They saw the person – not the label.
Now you sort people like products 🛍️.Too old. Too much hair. Too weird. And somewhere out there, the next option awaits 🔁.
Prettier. Slimmer. “Better.”
But “better” doesn’t feel warmer 🧊. And “more” doesn’t make you full 🍽️.
What you’re truly looking for –you can’t swipe for 🚫. It’s not smoother, fitter, more flawless.It’s quieter. It says: “I’ll stay.”
“I see you.”
“I accept you. All of you.” 🫂

You are not your body. You are a soul ✨ who chose to live in this body to have experiences 🌍.
But if you only see your body – and the bodies of others – and not what’s behind them, you’ll stay alone 🌫️. Your heart will remain untouched 💔. Because you aren’t truly seen. And you can’t really see 👁️🗨️. Because you’re staying on the surface – afraid of what you might feel in someone else’s depth 🌊.
Yes – real connection makes you vulnerable 🫀. But it’s the only place where you’ll truly feel at home 🏡.
Not because the other is perfect. But because in their gaze, you recognize yourself 🪞.
And when you feel: “This is where my heart is home,” you no longer need checklists ✅.
No apps.

No new lips 💋.
Just the courage to be seen – as you are 💎. And the courage to truly see the other – not because they’re beautiful, but because their soul touches yours 🤍.
💌 And if you feel ready to reconnect with your heart –if you’re ready to let go of your fear –then write to me ✍🏼. I’m here. And I’d love to walk with you 🌿.
contact(at)liaschmitt.com
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